Embracing Simplicity For Real Satisfaction And Personal Growth

 

Table of contents 

• Importance of simplicity 
• How to live a simple life
• Conclusion 

Joshua Becker in his book " Inside Out Simplicity" defines simplicity as " clarity, purpose and internationality." He further says " it is marked by the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of everything that distracts us from it. It is a life lived in unity....(it is) freedom from the passion to process." 

Importance of simplicity 

Simplicity is a focused on pursuing our values. Materialism has spread like a plague in this modern era consumption and over consumption is being promoted by every big and small company, media, industries. Desire to consume (own) more, spend more availablity of 'n' number of choices has made life easier and chaotic at the same time.

It is high time we are together turn towards simplicity. Simplicity involves elimination of unnecessary distractions. It is different from being deprived. It is conciously streamlining our desires, need so that we can focus on more valuable (real) stuffs in life.

• Be satisfied with what you have: This is the bottomline of simplicity. Being satisfied with whatever little or lot you have. The key lies in staying away from consumerism and materialism culture.
• Express gratitude for what you have: If you have to live a life of simplicity, you will first have to recognise what a wonderful life you have been living till now. 

Being thankful for the smallest things fills you with positivity boosting your aura. Be thankful for healthy food you eat, clean water you are blessed with, fresh air, clean dress you wear, wonderful health you have been enjoying. This beautiful lifestyle you have been living and a whole lot of other things. There are endless number of things you should be greatful for. Thanking even once a day will keep you grounded and positive.

• Enjoy the present moment: Most of the time we are either stuck with the past or worried about our future. Both state of mind is not helpful instead it acts as an escape from the present reality. Realising our present status and appreciating us helps us maintain balance and be generous.

• Note your values: you need to know what you expect from yourself and what kind of a life you want to live. Accordingly you will have to listen out your values that will help you persue your desired life.

Being clear with your values adis you to eliminate chaos and simplify your life style. Your set of values will guide your present and also your future.

• Do not compare: When you choose to live a life of simplicity you will have to accept that you are not like others. The mass today is busy running after money, products, beauty and other random( invaluable )things.  You choose to ditch all those fickle things for the real stuffs.

The mantra for simplicity is " Less is more." You know that eating less, buying only as much as is needed helps you save time and energy which could be invested in your personal growth.

• Do some l things:  you can read books, walk in your near by garden which are far more productive things to do. You can also replace your shopping cravings with fun activities like swimming, gardening, dancing, hiking. Simplicity makes you see the world as it is. Drink life in its real raw form. 

To sum 

You become mature, resilient and full of life. Simplicity makes you accept and embrace the core fact of life that we came here with nothing and we are sure to leave with nothing. 

So it is wise to invest our precious, limited time  on this planet on doing some real things, creating something worthwhile instead of wasting on fickle (invaluable) things like shopping, beings watching television or gossiping politics.Nothing is more liberating then giving up on material possessions. Do try it once. 

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1. Why simplicity is powerful?

Living an unconventional lifestyle, you become more open to change, uncertainty. Simplicity helps you adapt to new ways of improving your life and the lives around you.

Q.2. Is simplicity a skill?

Simplicity is definitely a skill that can be developed with practice and time. In this materialistic world where consumption culture is prominent it takes strong will power to keep yourself away form everything petty thing.

Q.3. Why simplicity is beauty?

The philosophy behind simplicity is to appreciate the idea of simple, uncomplicated and unadorned things over complex ones. It is the concept of embrace minimalism and clean and uncomplicated lifestyle. 

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How To Practice Acceptance In Daily Life To Promote Personal Growth

 

Table of contents 

• Acceptance and forgiveness
• The importance of acceptance
• How to be more accepting
• Conclusion 

Suffering is an inevitable part of life. Nobody on this planet is born who could say he or she has not suffered anything in entire lifetime. The richest of the rich poorest of the poor has their story to tell. Suffering comes from the result of attachment to the pain.Pain in itself is not suffering. The lasting effect that comes from holding that pain (painful incident) is suffering. The best way to overcome suffering is to practice acceptance.

It is obvious to get stressed about a challenging situation but when it is unavoidable it is wise an option to accept the situation and deal with it. Ignoring and running away from a complex situation will not help solve it. Acceptance is called as the ability to accept any situation that is not under your control and act in a responsive manner.

Many a times we tend to get attached to the pain part of a past incident. Non-attachment to the pain can only help us heal. You should keep yourself from judging any pain, suffering or experience. Lack of judgement is an important element for acceptance. 

Acceptance and forgiveness 

Acceptance on the surface might look same as forgiveness but both are not the same. Forgiveness means extending kindness to the other person while acceptance is an act of kindness towards yourself. It is far more satisfying then forgiveness. 

To accept things the way it is takes more understanding maturity and inner strength and stability.

The importance of acceptance 

• With acceptance the quality of life enhances as it boosts your mental health and well-being of the individual.
• Accepting a situation as it is helps us work out towards the direction of change to make that situation better.
• Acceptance is different from approval. We can accept a situation but need not approve it. This will you yous change any situation for better.
• Research shows that acceptance is important for the well-being of an individual. Learning to accept your thoughts, emotions and actions helps you grow stronger and wiser.
• A very significant part of acceptance is learning to embrace differences. You are not bothered about the skin color, financial status or religion that other practice. 

How to be more accepting 

• Practice self- awareness: when you are mindful of your passing thoughts you will be able to catch the stuck painful repetitive emotions and memories. What them pass by sitting in meditation. Do not judge your thoughts and emotions. This practice will help you feeling tolerance and acceptance.
• Look for patterns: we generally tend to follow a pattern. Observe yourself and find out the pattern. Find out when you are hurt, sad what you feel like doing? Do you binge watch Netflix or overeat snacks or anything that is not good for your mental or health.
• Practice acceptance: whenever you find yourself stuck with a situation that is outside your control remember to accept it. The more you practice acceptance under various situations the better you will get at it.
• Relax yourself: try to relax yourself. Take long deep breaths. Sit for self- reflection or practice journaling. These relaxing activities will help you digest roaring emotions, pain rushing throughout your body.

Take aways

It is not easy to identify and move on with the painful situations but acceptance is the only way to change for a better tomorrow. Acceptance gives you a sense of relief. Avoiding any situation ignoring or denying it means more troubles in the future. Instead, practicing acceptance allows to process your emotions calmly and move forward for a better and brighter future.

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Frequently asked questions 

Q.1. How to learn self-acceptance?

Practice gratitude and always check your negative thoughts patterns. Also build a strong support system so that you can stay strong in difficult times. That's how you will be able to love and accept yourself under any situation. 

Q.2. How to practice self-love?

Accept your mistakes, do not let others opinions influence your thoughts and emotions and also never compare yourself with others. These habits will help you practice self- love and care.

Q.3. why  can't I accept myself?

Many a times we feel frustrated about the things that are not under our control. Our insecurities, habit to compare ourself with others fills us with dark emotions making it difficult to accept ourselves.

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How To Embrace Change For Your Personal Growth

 

Table of contents 

• Benefits of embracing change in life
• How to embrace change
• Few more tips to embrace change 
• To sum up

"Change is the  only constant". Everyday we learn something new, different which adds to the growth of a human mind. There are times when we feel change is scary especially when it is big like( shifting to a new city, switching job or starting your own company or deciding to end a toxic relationship). But change is inevitable and important too.

Change is no doubt scary. We are comfortable hanging to our routine life. But it is at the same time a well known truth that for any either from personal or professional development you need to embrace and accept change. Change is a continuous process which has a snowball effect in the long run. Small changes are do not produce visible results immediately but in the long run a stronger and better version of you is obvious. Change boosts your self-esteem and self-efficacy when seen positively. 

Benefits of embracing change in life

• Change makes you stronger: Life is full of challenges and struggles. A positive outlook towards highs and lows of life helps you embrace change. Every challenges makes you more strong and mature. It tests your resilience and grit. 
• Challenge your comfort zone: Staying in your comfort zone makes you feel safe and secure. You avoid challenges and feel confident doing the same thing over and over again. 

With new challenges comes new opportunities, new circumstances with new people. When you are enthusiastic and open about new opportunities you also signal scope for improvement and advancement.

• Change makes you grow stronger: When you are you avoid new challenges you end up doing the same old things you have been doing for long. This prevents you you to accustom to changes positively.

Failure, falls, mistakes makes you learn and grow. These things comes to your experience when you accept to welcome change. Change always makes you grow stronger and wiser. 

• Change gives you strength to do more: Everytime you win over a situation you are filled with confidence. This confidence makes you face even challenging situation then before. Each time you come out strong, you are confident enough to do more.
• Embracing change helps you redirect yourself: You take the charge of your life in your own home when you are accept change. You take the control of the directions of your life.

In case you see yourself on wrong track , you can change your direction whenever it is right to do so. You are incharge of your life.

 

How to embrace change

• Write down : Whenever I think of change mind is filled with pros and cons that would befall with change. Note down them on a paper. It will help you segregate things and bring more clearity to your mind. All patterns and mental blocks would be in front of you showing you a much clearer picture.
• Accept your fear points:  Fear crops up because of uncertainty. When you accept your fear points you can observe them from a distance. You realise that these are just emotions. You can win over your fears with a positive mindset.
• Share your experience: Sharing your experience about change can also boost others to take steps in that direction. Sharing also makes you you belong to someone and you are valuable.
• Promotes creative thinking: Everyday is different from the previous one. All of us go through highs and lows in life. Unexpected challenges, uncertain future is way of life.

Creative thinking makes you flexible and help you become more flexible and resilient to change. That is how you come out strong.

Few more tips to embrace change 

• Be confident with your goal to embrace change. Reward yourself ( with a chocolate or watch your favourite movie) whenever you find yourself accepting change with a positive mindset.
• Prioritise your self-care. Always remain positive about a challenging situation. Your physical and mental well- being makes you stay strong.
• Stay away from negative triggers. Recognising what triggers you will help you hold yourself from falling into a disastrous situation.

To sum up

When you embrace change you are more satisfied and promote personal growth. Embracing change will always help in your journey to self improvement.

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Apologise with grace: The power of apology !

 

Table of contents 

• Benefits of apologising
• Why is it tough to apologise?
• When to apologise to someone ?
• Things to keep in mind

As I am new to driving I scratched a white car on the road. Rage was an obvious expectation. But just then I pulled down my window and apologised for my mistake. I also explained him I was new to driving and traffic was heavy to handle.

The other person was furious initially but with my apology and explaination his anger dissipated. He was instead more concerned about me now. He also gave me few tips to drive safe in that heavy traffic. That day I realised the power of an apology.

Most people accepts your apology if they see your intension is genuine and pure. It is an important ritual which can save you eight out of ten times. An apology has the power to desolve anger and end misunderstandings.

Research shows that receiving an apology has a positive impact also on our physical and mental health. It reduces blood pressure, slows down heart rate bringing stability to your breath. Both the giver and the receiver are at peace(benefits).

 Benefits of apologising

Apology can be an important way to mend relationships( personal or professional). We feel better after making an apology. Let us see what are the possible benefits of making a sincere apology.

• Apology dissipates anger:when you apologise to others they feel less hurt and their self -respect is not hampered. This helps them calm down restore peace in any situation. The anger rage dissipates cooling down the surrounding atmosphere. 
• It helps mend relationships: when the one in front of you feels safe and secure there is a chance to restore the relationship. When an apology is made it helps people feel their dignity is restored. Mending relations then becomes easier. 
• It brings dignity for those you hurt: have you stumbled upon someone and spilt your cold coffee over his white shirt. Instead of making excuses you simply ask for an apology and most of the time you will save yourself from some real troubles. This is human nature to forgive. 
• It helps build back trust: when you apologise you not only handle the situation but also builds trust. You have to keep the promise and see you do repeat the mistake. 

Why is it tough to apologise?

Since childhood we are taught to apologise, still there are times we hesitate from apologising. Sometimes we suffer mixed feelings.

• Many times we fear our apology would be taken for granted. Even though others are also involved in the conflict you being the first to apologise makes them feel they are fault free. The entire blame is put on you. 
• Sometimes an apology can also bring attention to a mistake that may not have been noticed before. 
• Our ego also keeps us from apologising.

However, in the long run an apology opens doors for resolution, restores positive feelings.

When to apologise to someone ?

When you realise something you did knowingly or unknowingly might have hurt someone's feelings you can decide to apologise or atleast have a discussion over the issue whenever possible. 

• When you hurt someone physically or emotionally intentionally or unintentionally.
• When you cannot stand to your commitments (promise). You could not attend a football match you planned with your friends the last weekend.
• You judged someone and talked bad (I'll) of them in front of others.
• You were disrespectful to someone in private or in public.

You can apologise to someone with a handwritten note or send an apology email or ask for a lunch or you can come up with some creative idea of your own that would please the other person. 

Things to keep in mind

• Take responsibility and accountability : when you indulge in a conflicting situation it is good to take responsibility and hold yourself accountable for your part of mistake. Do not take responsibility of others also as it would make you look weak and vulnerable. Buy it is no shame to be humble enough to ask for apology for your own mistake. Instead it makes you more sensible and a responsible person. 
• Communicate well : you should always clear all the points of clashes and inconveniences. Communicating well makes job easier. You have less efforts to put to convince your innocence to others. 
• Say sorry first and do not complicate it: do not hesitate to apologise first. Instead of waiting or forcing others to apologise you make the move and apologise. Keep your apology simple. Do not complicate things with lots of unnecessary explanations. 

Conclusion 

Apologising is not always easy but it is an important gesture to maintain or mend a relation. An honest apology will help you combat many conflicts which has no meaning in the long run. Do not hesitate to apologise with an open heart as it has the power to deminish the deepest wounds or scars. 

It is not for you to stress over the fact that the other will forgive you or not, you just do your part. Sometimes it takes time for some to forgive truly. Not apologising even when it is your fault can be detrimental for your professional or personal relations. This brings resentment, anger, disliking and feel of hate. A sincere apology brings relief for all.

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1.What are the 5 R's of apology?

Recognition, remorse, responsibility, 

Read more: restitution and repetition are known as the 5 R's of an apology. Whenever you make an apology to someone you should these five qualities to make it look honest and genuine.

Q.2. How do you respond to sorry professionally?

You can say I accept your apology or don't worry about it. It happens or you can also say no problem. 

Q.3. How do you apologize in a simple way?

You can simply express remorse over your mistake and promise that it won't happen again and also take steps to make amendments to repair the damage. 

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Benefits Of Being Alone Without Being Lonely !

 

Table of contents 

• Negetive impacts of loneliness 
• When solitude becomes beneficial 
• What are the benefits of being alone?
• Conclusion 

Not all of us  understand that spending time with yourself is a luxury in this busy world. Being alone is far different from being lonely. Loneliness is when you suffer solitude but being alone can be a moment of pleasure. 

When you are alone you can utilise this opportunity to unwind, reflect and be creative.  Spending time with yourself can have many positive outcomes.Being alone is different from being lonely.

Loneliness is a suffering. We can be alone and miserable. We suffer loneliness when we are devoid of social and emotional needs. 

Social loneliness is when we do get support from society ( peers, family, friends or colleagues).

Emotional loneliness is experienced when there is lack of intimacy between romantic partners or parents, children or family relations.

Loneliness can lead to stress and depression if left untreated for a longer period of time. Loneliness becomes problematic when you feel emptiness from within. Helplessness sweeps in making you feel unworthy and invaluable.

Negetive impacts of loneliness on

• Mental health: researches shows that loneliness can increase stress,anxiety. It can disturb your sleep cycles and also promote poor self- esteem. People suffering from such loneliness can take to self- isolation cutting themselves from the rest of the world. 
• Physical health: isolation when not done out of choice can impact your body and mind severely. Depression and anxiety are it's most obvious symptoms. It can also lead to increased heart disease and strokes. You can also suffer Type 2 diabetes. Therefore it becomes extremely important to treat loneliness and not let it hamper your mind and body.
• Emotional health: when you are alone and not by choice you suffer your company. Many a times you suffer emotionally. It is advisable to cry and let all your emotions of anger, pain, suffering flow out. You will feel relieved after a while. You will also sleep better. 

When solitude becomes beneficial 

Not always people suffer being alone. Instead it can be taken as an opportunity to spend time with yourself. You can utilise these precious moments to revisit, reflect on your life. You can also indulge in activities like watching your favourite long awaited movie or reading that book which has been lying in your shelf since months or you can eat your favourite snack. 

It looks difficult to slow down and take breaks in this busy schedule. But adding some quite moments to your routine will help you immensely in the long run. 

Here are few things you can do when you next time find yourself alone. This will help you boost confidence and enjoy your own company.

• Visit a museum:  it is a great way to spend time with yourself. You can enjoy your own company without bothering about others schedule, reaction while checking out things at the museum. 
• Learn something new: this is very satisfying. You can join a group where they teach playing piano, or learn salsa, or you can join coocking class anything of your interest. You will feel different and exuberant. 

Learning new things especially of your interest is a great way to uplift your mood. It is always rewarding to invest your time in doing something you like. 

• Do some drawings: you need be an artist to draw. Just take a pen and paper and start scribbling. This will help you empty yourself mind. Drawing is a good way to bring out the hidden creativity.
• Meditate (deep breathing): when alone try to draw your attention on your breath. Observe quietly your inhalation and exhalation. Long deep breaths for atleast 10 minutes a day helps calm down monkey mind. This is the best way to rejuvenates yourself. It will bring clearity to you and boost your aura.
• Go to movies and dinner alone: spend lone some time. Watch movies of your interest,eat food that you like. Initially you may find it odd but with time you will start enjoying your own company. You will see you are able to enjoy your food, movie little more as now you are free from worries about others taste and opinions. 

What are the benefits of being alone?

There are innumerous benefits of being alone. It is like a blessing in disguise. It is important to balance your loneliness time with social connections. Here are a few benefits to bring your attention the importance of being alone.

• Makes you creative:when you are alone you explore more. Then you are not concerned about others likes or dislikes giving you freedom to dig deep into your inner creativity. You are bothered about being judged if any thing not so good happens. You laugh at your mistakes and flaws. Your inner creativity develops only when you are not ready to make mistakes. 
• You learn to priorities your intrest: when you are alone do not sit doing others work. Instead you choose to finish your own task first. When you revisit and reflect your past you can find out what matters most for your growth. You need to take the responsibility and keep your interest above others. This the only way to progress either in your office or around any other situation.
• Improves your concentration and memory: reflecting on things that has happened again and again helps see those details that has been missed earlier. You develop new insights about from the same incident. This is also a memory excercise for brain. It improves retention power of the brain. Focus also develops leading to improved concentration and enhanced memory. 
• Gives you space: in this busy world where every minute is occupied with something or the other spending time alone is a blessing according to me. When you are all by yourself away from busy citylife and social media you can slow yourself down. Breath in and breathe out. Feel the air, water, nature around you. 

When you have no targets to achieve, no deadlines to meet, no pressure to attend a meeting or give a presentation you can just be by yourself. Enjoy your company. When you give yourself some space it rejuvenates you from within. 

• You become grateful: when you alone you realise how blessed you are to have so many advantages in life over others. You have healthy food to eat, fresh water to drink, plenty of oxygen to breathe. You wear the best of shoes, have parents to look after you and so many small and big advantages without which life would have been miserable. Thanking God for his blessings should be part of our daily routine. You should practice gratitude for every big and small things.

Besides all these you can also engage yourself into doing some service to the society. Research shows that we feel a sense of purpose when help others who are more vulnerable then us. Helping us makes us feel more empowered and worthy. You can provide some food to the nearby orphanage or donate blood once in a while or simply sit with a homeless poor and councel him about better living. These small gestures can go a long way to develop connections and sense of purpose to your life.

Conclusion 

Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert little high- quality time every now and then would be good for your overall well- being. Lone time must be utilised for cultivating your passion, or digging deep with a view to know yourself better. You can also simply take to rest where you would only feel like relaxing pulling yourself away from this busy life. 

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Frequently asked questions :

Q.1. Is it normal to be OK with being alone?

It is perfectly alright to be alone especially when you enjoy doing things all by yourself. Being alone is not same as being lonely. When lonely makes you feel miserable but you can ofcourse be alone and happy as you enjoy the peace around you.

Q.2. How to stay strong alone?

To stay strong you can include some practice in your daily routine. First of all you need to stop comparing yourself with others. You should be bold and do new activities that boosts your confidence. You should join community where you can provide some service as a responsible citizen.

Q.3.Can I be happier alone?

Being alone can be a positive and enriching experience with right kind of mindset. It could be your loneliness time where you can enjoy your favourite activities without any distraction. 

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Are you self sabotaging. How to stop sabotaging yourself !

 

Table of contents

• Why do we self sabotage ourselves?
• Few red signs to identify if you are also self-sabotaging.
• Few subtle signs to observe and be careful about.
• How to stop self sabotage?
• Conclusion

Nobody conciously sabotages themselves but still all of us do it unknowingly. Self- sabotaging behaviours hinders your own progress. It hampers all arenas of life be it career, relationship. 

Taking steps that draws (pulls) you away from achieveing your goal intentionally or unintentionally is called as self- sabotaging behaviours. We all have done it at some point of life. We might hesitate to admit it. But we need to treat this behaviour.

Why do we self sabotage ourselves?

Self sabotage behaviour limits a persons ability to progress in a healthy manner. It acts as a coping mechanism for people in a stressful situation. This behaviour could be concious or an unconscious pattern followed by one under difficult situations.

In the book Stop Self Sabotage, Dr. Judy Ho explains self-destructive behaviour as a biological response. Self sabotage sets in especially when our values do not align with our behaviour. When we have to do something that we really do not want (like) to do.

Self sabotage can affect ones mental health as it prevents them from achieveing their goals. It can affect personal and professional success as well.

It becomes important to identify whether you are also suffering from such behaviour.

There are few red signs to identify if you are also self-sabotaging yourself.

• Procrastination: all of us has suffered this guilt of putting off things for later. We tend to procrastinate doing a task especially those we do not like. This brings down our confidence. It is never good to run away from your responsibility.
• Running after Perfectionism: striving to be perfect is not always good for us. Self-sabotaging people are often perfectionists. In order to do a task perfectly either we do not start a task or is unable to finish if started. We are more concerned about the details. This makes us feel stuck. 
• Lack of communication: we usually keep ourselves from communicating our insecurities, failures because we feel we will become vulnerable. But the opposite is true. When you admit you fear, insecurities you feel more confident as you have nothing to hide. 

When you need help with a project should ask for it rather then staying quite and doing it all by yourself. This will make you more confident and brave. Communication helps you convey your boundaries and necessities to your friends, family and colleagues. Lack of communication hinders your progress.

• Practicing self medication: there are times when people submit to stress and depression. Then they start soothing themselves with various kinds of drugs, alcohol. 

Few subtle signs to observe and be careful about:

• Constantly seeking for others approval.
• Reluctance to ask for help from others.
• Always self criticising and estimating unworthy of yourself.
• Not setting boundaries and unable to speak for yourself.
• Setting goals too low and undermining capacity.

How to stop self sabotage?

• Observe yourself and look for the root cause of the problems: look for patterns in your life. Try to find the real cause of your problems. Only when you know the underlying reason that triggers a perticular behaviour you can develop a coping mechanism. 
• Do not run after Perfectionism: in the desire to do everything perfectly Perfectionist people overthinks the details. Instead of perfection one must strive for excellence. Consistent small improvements helps you progress in the long run. 
• Write down your plans and follow them: it is always advisable to write down your plans of the day. This helps you bring clearly in your thoughts. Once you complete them put a right Mark at the end of the day. This feels like a reward to your brain. It develops addiction to not break the chain of the tick mark and motivates you follow your plans each day.
• Practice mindfulness and remain aware: practicing mindfulness for even 10 minutes a day will help you calm down. Pay attention to your passing thoughts and do not be judgemental about them.

Take few long and deep breaths for sometime. This will help you bring back your focus. Practice self - compassion. Pamper yourself with any small reward when you accomplish a goal npo matter how small it is. Give yourself a pudding or gift yourself a new tshirt. This will make you feel worthy in your own eyes.

• Communicate as much as possible: it becomes important to communicate with others either your manager, seniors or juniors at work or even in relationship. Miscommunication can lead to several numbers of problems. The more you speak the less fearful you will get.

Let people know about your insecurities. This will make you leso s fearful from within. When you voice your concerns you often get support of others. This will make you stronger in the long run.

Conclusion

Self-sabotaging is a behaviour that is practiced by humans universally. At times this can be painful and challenging. But by cultivating self -awareness, using technology rightly, seeking help you can navigate through this strongly. But remember, with right strategies and intention we can develop a coping mechanism. Remember you are not alone in this struggle and there are a number of recourses to support your journey to growth and self -development.

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1 Are you self- sabotaging your relationship?

It becomes important to check if you are among those who self sabotage their relationships before it gets to late to fix or mend. Some signs you can look for are jealousy, often criticising others of having difficulty in maintaining a relationship.

Q.2.Why do people sabotage romantic relationships?

People often sabotages their relationship with their partners for various reasons like trust issues, high unrealistic expectations, poor self- esteem and also lack of their ability to handle a relationship.

Q.3. Is self- sabotage good?

Self-sabotaging behaviour is never good for anyone in under any circumstances. It hinders your progress and can also be detrimental to our mental and emotional health.

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Organise Your Thoughts Clearly To Become More Productive

 

Table of contents 

• Is it important to organise thoughts?
• How to organise your thoughts?
• Exercises for brain development 
• Few more tips to organise your thoughts 

"The most fundamental principle of the organised mind is to shift the burden of organising our brains to the external world." Daniel Levitin, The Organised Mind.

On an average we pass around 60000 thoughts everyday. In which most of them are repetitive or not useful ones. We are all the time surrounded with pool of thoughts.

This digital era where we are just a click away from loads of information it is a matter of concern how to keep our brains organised.

It becomes very important to declutter the mind as an unorganised mind increases the fatigueness causing delay in decision making. Moreover, over brain is a store house of information, it can store a lot many things but it is not good at retrieving it. When you try to recall a particular piece of information it might not come out at all or even if it comes out it is distorted.

So it is advisable to organise your thoughts on paper so that retrieval becomes easier. 

Is it important to organise thoughts?

"You have power over mind not outside events. Realise this and you will find great strength." Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

An organised mind is more productive then and cluttered mind. It becomes important to consciously take steps to organise the thoughts. Organisation of thoughts also promotes room for new ideas, and reboots the brain. 

• Organising your thoughts also helps you in: organising your thoughts helps you stay focused which increases your productivity. Research shows that organising your mind boost your mind reduces stress and anxiety.
• Bring clarity for decision making: when your mind is organised it is has space for other ideas to sweep in. Declutter and clean mind is more energetic and produces better results. It becomes easier to take decisions when things are sorted. Complexity in mind regarding anything consumes more energy.
• Improves your communication: when there no complexity in mind it functions smoothly. Communication becomes smooth and flow develops in a conversation. 
• Enhance mental health: a decluttered mind is a symbol of healthy mind. You think clearly, act smartly and is more productive and focused. Mentally you are more active.

How to organise your thoughts?

Here are few tips and tricks you can use to organise your thoughts:

• Write down your thoughts: when you take to writing half of your job is done. It takes more efforts and involvement to write down your thoughts. Brain is naturally forced to think more. 
• Also when things are on paper you can make more meanings and connections. This helps in organisation of thoughts further.
• Speak out: talk to yourself. Look in mirror or simply sit on a chair and talk to yourself for atleast 15 minutes. Doing this helps you empty yourself from within and clams you down. 
• Use environment to promote healthier thinking: make a habit of walking outdoors in nature for atleast 15 minutes a day. Just spend time with yourself. Observe yourself, look at things around you without any judgement or opinion. Be present in the moment.

Exercises for brain development 

Your brain needs as much care as your body. Like our body muscles our brain muscles also enhances with the right kind of exercises. Here are few brain exercises one can perform for development of brain.

• Learn new languages: when you learn something new brain pays attention more closely. Brain makes connections and incorporates new things. This promotes healthy growth of brin. Research shows that it also reduces the chances of dementia.
• Practice drawing: drawing is not only for artists. Anybody can draw. It new neural pathways and boosts serotonin. One must draw whenever possible. It needs not be perfect. It just for your creativity.
• Do calculations: doing calculations mentally helps make new connections and boosts your brain power. It stimulates that part of the brain that regulates emotions.
• Play musical instruments: when you try to learn something new like playing a musical instrument, it stimulates different parts of your brain. It helps you boost your reaction time.
• Identify smell and flavours: consciously detecting smells improves your cognitive ability through smell training. You can also practice smelling the 5 scents (essential oils,flowers) for atleast 3 months in a row.
• Find connections between your thoughts: thoughts have connections with one another. Look for patterns in your thoughts. You will come up with some great insights.
• Use mind mapping: ask yourself questions like: 

• Why some thoughts come again and again?
• Is it connected to my past?
• Is it helpful for my future?
• How can I deal with these thoughts?

This process will force your brain to look at the passing thoughts differently. It will ransack your thoughts thoroughly. 

• Practice mindfulness dumping daily: this practice will help you declutter your mind. Write down all the tasks that you think is to be completed that day. Write down everything and anything that is drifting in your head. It will clear your headspace making more rooms for new ideas to come in.

Few more tips to organise your thoughts:

• Meditation and deep breathing helps calm down your mind making it more peaceful. Practice it for atleast 15 minutes a day.
• Drink plenty of water. It rejuvenates you and keeps you hydrated. It will keep your brain from getting foggy.
• Talk to your friend who understands your emotions and feelings. Empty yourself infront of him or her. Make sure the one with whom you talk to is someone who has not judgement towards yours emotions.

Observe your thoughts quietly. Let them pass. Keep watching. Do not try to forcefully stop them from coming to your head. It will anyway not work. Just reflect over them. You will notice something you have never noticed before.

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1. How to organise your thoughts?

You can priorities your thoughts and seperate complex thoughts from the repetitive and simpler ones. Develop a consistent routine for doing this and you will see yourself better organized with your thoughts.

Q.2. How do I control my thoughts?

You can practice deep breathing and meditation for atleast 15 minutes a day to clam down your mind. Negative thoughts triggers a chain of useless thoughts in our mind. Be aware of such triggers. Try to remain positive as long as possible.

Q.3. How can I stop unwanted thoughts in my mind?

Donot try to stop your thoughts forcefully. It would not work. You can simply watch your thoughts and not judge them. Slowly try to fix your attention on your breath. This will slowly with practice help you stop unwanted thoughts.

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