How Stop Dwelling On Past Mistakes And Move Forward

 

Table of contents 

• What causes a person to dwell on the past?
• Is it healthy to keep dwelling on past?
• How to stop thinking about the past mistakes?F
• Few more tips you can follow 

Dwelling on our past mistakes often often leads to self-criticism. This further promotes stress, anxiety and depression. Thinking about the same thing that went wrong is bad our our mental health. Mistakes can haunt us for long if not handled properly. The only way out is to learn the lessons from the mistakes and move forward.

Forgiving ourselves is the best way to deal with the mistakes. There are several steps that can be deliberately taken if you find yourself stuck in the loop of past memories.

What causes a person to dwell on the past?

We keep ruminating over the past because we look for answers. Answers to current problems or answers to things that make no sense to you. Revisiting events over and over again might help you find answers to questions drifting in your head.

It is very normal for a human to ruminate as it is a natural behaviour for us. Our mind has evolved over centuries to dwell on past to learn from mistakes for better survival. 

Is it healthy to keep dwelling on past?

Think about past for some time is normal but ruminate over it day in and out is not at all good. It can cause distress and also affect mental health by 

• Increasing anxiety and stress
• hampering focus 
• altering sleep cycle 
• increasing fear

How to stop thinking about the past mistakes?

There are several steps that can be taken to deal with past. 

• Accept your mistakes: first step to take is to accept that you are mistaken and now you are feeling bad. Allow yourself seep in all the emotion of anger, repent, dismal, disappointment. Wrap yourself around all these heavy emotions, cry if you feel like. This will help you release tensions. But also remember "crying over the spilt milk" is of no use. 
• Express your feelings: express your feelings. If these feelings remains unaddressed then it might take longer to heal. You might open up before your close friend or family or a therapist. Healing becomes easier. 

• Practice mindfulness: whenever you catch yourself visiting your painful past again just bring back yourself to the present moment. Feel where you are sitting, how you are breathing, what you are hearing. Everything that is happening in this moment. This is mindfulness. It helps you clam down. Soothens you from within. You can listen to music or focus on your breath to practice mindfulness.
• Focus on learnings: when a mistake is done it's done. You cannot undo it now.  So it is far better to focus on things that you can control. Remember that mistakes are opportunities to learn. Without mistakes nobody has achieved anything significant. So accept your mistake and learn from them. The will make you grow wiser with time.
• Seek support when needed: talking to someone you trust is very helpful while dealing with heavy emotions. Friends, family or a therapist can help you see another perspective of the same coin. People can provide you with a healthier coping mechanism and guidance. Do shy away from seeking help whenever in need.

Few more tips you can follow 

• Limit your negative thoughts: negative repetative thoughts keeps you stuck in the vicious cycle of self-blame. Keep a check on yourself with respect to thoughts. These negative thoughts drains your energy making you fatigued and lazy. Reframe the questions next time you catch blaming yourself. Look for positive outlook to the same situations. 
• Give yourself time: practice patience and persistence. It will take time and consistent efforts. It is a long journey. You will have to work through your feelings and gradually let go the wounds. Things will not happen in a day or two. Healing takes time. 
• Practice gratitude: focus on things that are in your control. Be thankful about the positive things you enjoy and own. Your health, family, house, food are the real things you should always and always be thankful for. Consciously admire appreciate and acknowledge the positive factors of your life even in the face of challenges.

In conclusion, letting go of the past is not easy but an essential part in the journey of self- improvement. Releasing the grip of past to hold the new is a step towards growth. Embracing present and learning from past will help us long way. 

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1. How to detach from the past?

Accepting your feelings, indulging in self-care routine, not yourself ruminate on the past are the few things you could do to detach yourself from your past.

Q.2. Why am I mentally stuck in the past?

When we suffer a traumatic event our memory gets hooked to that event. Later on we find it difficult to navigate through them as it becomes a very painful and hurting.

Q.3. How do I release myself from a past relationship?

Setting boundaries, talking to a friend or journaling can help you release yourself from your past relationship. You can also take to self-care and keep yourself busy by engaging in activities and events of your choice.

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How To Age Gracefully And Enjoy Life At Every Stage

 

Table of contents 

• What it is to age gracefully?
• Accept your age gracefully 
• What are the ways to age gracefully?
• Few more tips you can follow 

What it is to age gracefully?

A whole lot of misconception is going around aging around the globe. Atleast for me aging is a misconception. I think, with age we become more strong and resilient. But, to many aging is anxiety, stress and depression. 

I remember, when I was in my ninth grade I used to wait so eagerly to grow old. For me back then adulthood was a dream. Adulthood meant freedom, independence. It was mesmerising to see adults going for trips, clubs without having to seek permission from anybody. All this was so exciting. I couldn't wait to grow old. 

Even though in my adulthood today I fail to understand people's antipathy towards growing old. Why there is so much of hesitation to accepts lines on their faces or greying of the hair. 

But in reality old age is synonymous of experience.

 Think about these questions. Who would you choose to operate you (supposing you need one) , a doctor who is in his 60s (with a bag full of experience) or a younger doctor with no or little experience to relie upon?

Who would you prefer in your college, as your professor, somebody who as young as you or someone who is a decade or two older to you?

I am sure you must be very clear with your answers. The older the better. Here fits the age old saying "old is gold." 

I never understood peoples behaviour of lying about their age. Don't you think with growth comes maturity. Do you not feel more mature then the last year? Do you not feel more confident in your 30s compared to your 20s? With age we understand the world better . Since the minute we are born we are aging. It is as natural as breathing. We all should embrace it. 

Accept your age gracefully 

Ageing is more serious a problem for women. Many women strives day in and out to keep themselves young. They are obsessed about looking 3-5 years younger to their actual age. For this they do whole lot of stuffs. But they should look young effortlessly. 

Day skin-care routine, night skin-care routine, tonnes of packs (face, hair) masks, serums and what not forms a part of their daily routine. The whole cosmetics industry is booming and flourishing on this simple idea to look young. W

hen the exploding cosmetic market is not enough people turn to surgeons. They get injection, drugs.Skin crafting is done to look prettier and younger. 

Youthfulness should radiate from your mind and not your skin. The energy(aura) that you carry should count and not your appearance. Today's youth obsessed society needs to realise that a human's value increases with age. Age is not to be ashamed of. Embrace the positive factors that comes only as you age( like experience , resilience, confidence,value).

What are ways to age gracefully?

Instead of taking at age as a battle, we can look for better ways to navigate through it. We should change our perspective and try to celebrate ageing. Why not accept it peacefully instead of waging a war against it. After all, whether you accept it not everybody has to get old. Here are few tips to use if you want to age gracefully.

• Attending cultural events: when you participate cultural events you meet people of all groups. Meeting people with different enthusiasm levels make you happier from within.Research shows that people who participate in social events actively are at less mortality risk. Going to theaters, swimming, church, playing golf are some of the events one must associate themselves with. This brings positive association people enhancing their well- being.
• Excercise: research shows that those who involves themselves in different activities like swimming, dancing, hiking, cycling they have been found more healthy. Movements in body increases hippocampus( a part of brain that is responsible for learning and memory). Increase in hippocampus decreases the rate of ageing. 
• Revisit your memories: turning back the clock is not possible but it is very much possible to live the memories of past. You can revisit your albums, you can listen to songs that were favorites, go to places you used to love the most. These things may not have a tangible effect but it will definitely make you live your younger days (brings back memories). It could also be done for fun. Researches call it 'mini time wraps'.  

• Stay updated with technologies: it is very common to see older people refusing technology. But, we all know how comfortable and fast has the world become because of these technologies. Old people must use technology. They can build more social connections, feel more connected which will keep them more happy and healthy.I mean using tik-tok not really that tough. They can send and receive emails without having to wait for somebody else to do it for them. They can order food, stuffs at home. This will keep them updated and engaged. They need a more open attitude towards technology. 
• Stimulate your senses: as we age our senses of smell, taste and hearing becomes dull. Spending out time in the arms of nature (greenary) , would be a great way to sooth yourself. Sensorial stimulating element helps protect your senses to some extent. It also adds to your joy. 

Few more tips you can follow 

• Embrace yourself (by looks, body, health) in all stages of life.
• Buy yourself flowers or any other gift that makes you happy.
• Spend time with nature. Gor for a long walk amongst trees, swim across rivers. 

Ageing is a boon if you ask me. Embrace it with love and positivity. The above given tips will only help you enhance your maturity level making you more robus. With time you become more resilient towards challenges of life. You become stronger. It not something to be fearful about. Instead sit and see how much you have grown up as age. 

Read more: Benefits of journaling

Frequently asked questions:

Q.1.How do I accept that I am aging?

You should first of all accept your age, and the fact that you and all of us together are ageing. Surround yourself with people of all age groups.

Q.2.At what age do people worry about aging?

According to AARP research, greater concerns about aches, pains, and health maladies crops up in people around their 50s. This becomes the major concern for their age.

Q.3.At what age is it normal to start feeling old?

Around 50s it is considered normal to feel older. 

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Using Hand Gestures To Establish Better Communication With People

 

Table of contents 

• How important are hand gestures in a communication?
• Types of hand gestures 
• How to encorporate hand gestures while speaking?

Have you ever noticed that effective public speakers uses hand gestures to add effect to what they say. Research suggests that using hand gestures helps us communicate far better. We should try to talk with with along with words. It is also good for listeners as it helps them understand and remember things better. 

Talking with hands makes you be understood by others more clearly. It also helps in retention of concept both for you and your audience.It acts as using imaginary highlighters in your speech. This helps in easy retention and recall of facts and figures.This is the reason why, small children are taught rhymes with hand gestures. 

How important are hand gestures in a communication?

In 2015 TED talks (speakers were analysed) which revealed that those who used hand gestures were more popular compared to those who included less or no hand gestures. Hand gestures are very helpful in establishing connections with others.

We learn to use gestures as we grow up. This is natural. We can also intentionally make use of this fact to enhance the effect of our speech on the audience. The Dutch research team who once conducted an experiment found that hand gestures plays an important role in establishing personal communication as it haves a direct impact on what the listener actually hears.

Types of gestures 

Hand gestures can be broadly categorised into two types.

• Beat gestures: these are simple gestures which do not necessarily attach meaning to it. Plain , lucid movements of hands while speaking falls under this category.
• Iconic gestures: these are those gestures which are intentionally made to draw attention of the listeners. It also sometimes used to replace words. This could like waving hands (to say hello) , thumbs-up (to say good or okay),  hi five ( to convey excitement). 

Different gestures are used in different contexts. For example when you win a football match you will talk with your body (differently) full of enthusiasm and energy. While the same reaction may look odd while in a corporate setting.

How to incorporate gestures in your speech?

It is very much possible to train yourself to talk with your hands. This would improve your presentation and make your audience more attentive. Here are few steps how you can do it deliberately. 

• Observe yourself (be mindful) : first try to observe yourself while talking. Do you at all use hand gestures? If yes then,do they align with your speech? Do the gestures you use with intention looks natural while speaking? 
• Practice more: try to deliberately use more hand gestures like the chopping style for showing chronological order or upward or downward slope for growth or decline or three straight fingers with thumb and index forming a circle to show beautiful and many more. The bigger the audience the bigger your gestures should be. Make yourself comfortable with planned and spontaneous gestures. 
• Create gestures for important stuffs: use particular gestures the helps you highlight the main key points in your speech. This will help help you and also your audience recall things with ease. 
• Learn from others: see videos( like TED Talks) or any other popular speaker of your choice and try to imitate their moves. Study their body language while speaking. Pick new ideas from them and use them for yourself. This will help you grow.

Gestures are overall a very simple tool to use while speaking to enhance your presentation. People who uses their hand to talk are considered more appealing, approachable and filled with warmth and energy. While those who restrict their body movements are less likely to approaches and cold. 

Read more: Can Introverts Become Successful Leaders - Myths About Leadership Busted

Frequently asked questions:

Q.1. Do hand gestures show confidence?

Undoubtedly using hand gestures radiate confidence in communication. It helps you emphasize on points, convey emotions even without saying a word.

Q.2. Do intelligent people talk with their hands?

Intelligent people with caution uses their body movements while in communication.

Q.3.Is it attractive to talk with your hands?

Research suggests that people who uses hands to talk are seen as people who is filled with warmth, energy and are more approachable. Those who take to less body movements are considered as cold, unapproachable. 

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A Guide To Set Healthy Boundaries And Help Become A Better Version Of Yourself

Table of contents 

• Types of boundaries 
• Symptoms of lack of boundaries 
• How to set healthy boundaries?
• Benefits of setting boundaries 
• Few more tips and tricks 
• Setting boundaries in different settings

Boundaries helps decide where to start and where to end. Healthy boundaries gives you a sense of well- being. "Boundaries are separation that humans need- mentally, emotionally and physically - to feel safe, valued and respected," explains Carl Marie Manly.

Types of boundaries 

• Flexible boundaries (soft boundaries): those things where you can negotiate or compromise are called as soft boundaries. Suppose you want a dress from your wishlist cart but you would want a better deal. Then you can wait for a price drop or, might not buy it for the hike of its price. 
• Hard boundaries: those things where you deny to negotiate or compromise. For example you would never be friends with a drug addict. 

What does having no boundaries looks like?

Setting boundaries becomes important in various situations. Setting boundaries foster happy and healthy relationships. Manly explains " in general, boundary issues tend to occur from allowing your own boundaries to be crossed or crossing others' boundaries."

Few common signs which indicates lack of boundaries are mentioned below:

• Seeking for people pleasing attitude and remaining constantly concerned about others opinion.
• Fear of being rejected makes you settle for less then you deserve.
• Accepting public insults by the people who loves to mistreat others publicly or in private.
• Always saying "yes" even when your inner self is screaming a "no" as you lack the confidence to deny somebody.
• Not able to speak up for yourself even if it hurts you financially, emotionally. 

If you are somebody who often falls under these situations it is quite possible that you have not set your boundaries. It is time to get it done.

How to set healthy boundaries?

Boundaries are like stop signs which depends on your values, beliefs, family traditions and cultural customs. Here are few tips that may help you set your boundaries as per your requirements. 

• Maintain clarity: what you do not like take it as a sign that you need to set boundaries here. Keep noticing yourself and be clear with your feelings.
• Take small steps: it is always advisable to take small steps when you are doing it for the first time. In the beginning it can be tough and uncomfortable but with practice you will get better at it. 
• Be simple: ask yourself what you like and what you dislike. Based on your feelings keep yourself clear and well communicated. Do not make your instructions too complicated for others to understand. 
• Keep practicing: write a few situations where you would like to say 'no' and set your boundaries. Practice in isolation a few times then with your family and friends. 

Benefits of setting boundaries 

Setting healthy boundaries is often good for your mental, and emotional health. You become free from 

• Stress               
• anxiety 
• depression 
•  gives you a sense of security 
• fosters robust healthy relationships 

Other benefits are:

• Provides stability :setting limits makes you more balanced. You might want to attend a night out party with your friends but sticking to your routine is better for your work life balance.
• You have less complaints: when you have terms and conditions explained with others most probably people are less likely to breach them. You might like to help people but overdoing spoils them and exhausts you. Over dependency frustrates you making you full of resentments. Setting boundaries helps prevent such situations.

Setting boundaries in different settings 

• At work:most of us feel awkward to say no in our profession setting. If not done properly it can at times take toll on our mental health.
• Set boundaries for yourself: do not accept working beyond committed hours or under unworkable conditions. Do not tasks you are not suppose to do. Learn to say "no" firm and politely.
• Approach your authorities: keep yourself in touch with authorities of your company. Do not accept any form of ab from your colleague, seniors of managers know whom to approach and when with confidence.

With parents :There are times when our parents take us for granted. If not addressed then it becomes stressful in the long run. But while dealing with parents

• Be respectful: your need to explain yourself to your parents as an adult with an eye contact, watch your tone.
• Discuss the issues: talk to them what is bothering you. They might understand their irrational behaviour. Having a healthy discussion always helps.

With friends and family 

• Avoid gossiping: it is most disturbing to hear something from someone other then you two two friends. This destroys your image trust in your friend's eyes. Keep away from indulging in such activities. It can backfire anytime.
• Address the issue directly: youp find your friend talking bad about you address it with that person directly. Let not any third person get involved between two guys.

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1.what causes poor boundaries?

Poor boundaries often reflects low self esteem, poor emotional health. Poor boundaries can hamper your personal growth which is not desirable.

Q.2.How is setting boundaries important?

Setting boundaries we end up prioriting our needs over others which in turn helps us save time and energy. It increases our health and happiness.

Q.3. Is setting boundaries a value?

Setting boundaries is ofcourse a core value. It helps us define our priorities and our image.

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Listening To Podcast Helps You Improve Life Quality

 

Table of contents

• Benefits of podcast 
• Few more advantages of podcast 
• Podcast vs audiobook 
• Things to keep in mind(precautions)

Listening to podcasts undoubtedly has several benefits. Podcast culture is booming in this digital era. With podcasts various arenas are covered. Health, relationship , education, sports, security ( personal or international) the list goes on. Interacting with experts from different fields helps audience become aware of dos and don'ts towards living a quality life. Experts with their invaluable experience are able to share useful tips and tricks for public welfare. 

This is an innovative, hassle free way of communication. We have invaluable advices(information) coming from invaluable people for free. We all are part of this revolutionary (digital) era. Podcasting is making best use of this system. This podcasting culture is helping us grow into a beautiful, much self aware beings. This is helping us tap into our hidden potential. 

Benefits of podcasts

• It is easy to access: you can listen to podcast while you are traveling, cooking, walking. 
• Helps you get expert advices: most of the good podcast channels gets experts as their guests. They are the ones who practice their profession for years. Their viewpoints are trustworthy and assured of quality. 
• Advices are reliable: when you follow an authentic channel you come across people who have been in their profession for several years. After long they master their skills making them reliable and trustworthy. 
• Low cost: we get all such expert advices for almost free. All you need is internet connection to your devices which is most of the times pocket friendly.
• Improves the quality of life: the quality suggestions when implemented makes you improve the quality of your own life. 

In one podcast I heard an eye surgeon ( an expert with over 35 years of experience) saying that we should never wash our eyes with water or put any sort of drops be unless it is medically recommended. It may leads to dryness of eyes which is not treatable. A person has to live with eye irritation for life. To tell you the truth I used to wash my eyes with water sometimes. But after hearing him I completely gave this practice. It is such a trivial information but the quality of life depends on it. An eye has natural cleansing mechanism. It needs no human intervention for its hygiene.

Few more advantages to keep in mind about podcasts 

• It entertains you: podcasts are a different from of entertainment. Everyone do likes to hear stories of a detective or army personnel or police or something that is unheard. Various stories about jail life or an advocate's journey stirs our imagination. 
• It gives you different insights: podcasts helps you see the same world from a different perspective. Have you ever heard a podcast with a jailer? They have a different perspective of this world altogether. 
• It educates you: listening to good podcasts like educational ones makes us aware of a better way of managing our mental, physical health, relationships. 

Podcast versus audiobooks 

You might question me, isn't it better to listen to audiobooks instead of podcasts?

My answer to which would be, books and podcasts are of different genres. Both do looks the same on the surface level. Commonality between the two is both involves our auditory senses(ears). 

Both differs by structure. Books are more formal in structure and format while podcasts can be informal with a touch of personal touch. Plus if you develop a connection with the host and the guests of the podcasts you feel you are a part of conversation. 

Things to keep in mind :

•  Do not overdo it: do not burnout yourself with podcasts. Overload of informations will trigger frustration. 
• Prioritise your interest: not all podcasts are important for you. Choose as per your likes and dislikes. Avoid listening to podcasts you don't like.
• Be regular: include listening to podcast in your routine. You can listen something while you are walking in your park in morning or evening.
• Make notes: whenever you come across a good valuable advice note it down. Otherwise it can very easily slip out of your mind. Revisit them whenever possible. Try to include those advices in your life.
• Follow the advices: try to walk upon the advices that makes sense to you. Like when you are working on screen for long hours look away from screen every 15-20 minutes. This will help your eyes relax. This is an advice was given by an eye expert. Since I heard it I have been following it.
• Follow authentic channels: there are countless numbers of people running their own podcast channel. And ofcourse not all of them are authentic or of your use. So choose wisely. Go for experts advices only.
• Do not follow everything blindly: when you get accustomed to this podcast culture you will feel overwhelmed with a number of advices. Remember not all of them are to be followed. Start small. Look what suits you best. Do not feel pressurized of guilty if you miss out or do not want to follow other advices. 

Podcasts are easy and authentic way towards improving the quality of life. It is something everyone of us must include in our routine. It will help us improve the quality of our life.

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1. Do podcasts improves listening skills?

Podcasts are highly recommend by language experts. Podcasts gives an exposure to various accents, authentic contexts and natural speech development. 

Q.2.Do podcasts help your brain?

Listen to podcasts stirs your imagination and mental imagery. It also improves our cognitive functions. 

Q.3. Do podcasts reduces stress?

Podcasts definitely reduces stress level. It supports us emotionally, helps develop different perspectives of the same world. It brings self-awareness which do helps us remind clam and strong in various situations.

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Can Introverts Become Successful Leaders - Myths About Leadership Busted !

Table of contents 

• Can introverts become a leader?
• Introverts versus extroverts 
• Are people born leaders?
• Myths about leadership 
• Some common traits of a leader.
• How to become a good leader?

Bill Gates, Mahatma Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt are amongst some of the most powerful introvert leaders in the history of humankind. There are many others like them. Research suggests that introverts can become very powerful leaders.

This clearly busts the myth we have been carrying for years that only an extrovert can be a good leader. It is a no prerequisite. Extroverts by nature are more assertive and radiate lots of energy. But that does not means they can make good leaders as well.

Introverts versus extroverts

Introverts: they are the ones who likes to spend time themselves. Who are comfortable doing things alone. They do not involve much with their surroundings. They are great at listening and do not like to talk(socialise) much. 

Extroverts: they are such people who loves spending time with people (groups) socialising. They love to discuss their mind with others. They are comfortable mixing with large group of people as well. They are often assertive in nature and exudes lots of energy. 

Introverts and extroverts has different skill sets. Both have their own advantages and strengths. Both are important in their own settings.

Are people born leaders?

This question do not have a clear answers as per researches. But we can for sure work upon the qualities needed by a leaders and improve with practice. 

Here are some popular myths about leadership.

• Leaders are born leaders: it is a misconception that people are by birth leaders. Leaders are often a product of training, qualities and capabilities. Anyone of us who is willing enough to put the amount of labour it takes to become a leader will definitely end up being one sooner or later.
• Extroverts makes good leaders: extroverts by nature looks more confident, energetic. Introverts are good listeners, good with decision making. Both introverts and extroverts can bring different sets of skills to the table. Both has  different strengths.
• Leadership means authority: leadership is about inspiring others to achieve goals. Effective leaders comes from any position in any organisation or any strata of the society. Position in level of ranking is not actually a matter of concern for them. It is not necessary for a leader to hold high positions in hierarchy only. 
• Leaders are always confident: leaders not compulsorily needs to carry confidence and exceptional public speaking skills. These qualities are not prerequisite but additional (helpful) attributes for self growth. Leaders key role lies in inspiring others, handling a chaotic situation.

Some common traits of  a leader

• Fills you with motivation: a leader will help you cope up with tough situations, will pull you out of troubles and charge you with motivation from within. 
• Visionary: future sightedness is common in leaders. They knows the impulse of the audience. Where the crowd is heading, what turns it can take is predicted by the leaders. This ability to for see further is appreciated.
• Inclusive leadership skills: leader is one who make everyone feels valuable. A leader should make sure that each individual makes their presence felt, everybody's efforts counts. Research shows that inclusive leadership results in 54% lower employer turnover.
• Strong decision making skills:most of the times leaders are good with decisions making. But at times they may makes wrong decisions but that does not makes them less of a leader. Learning from failures is a skill too. More important is that when a decision is take it should be taken with full responsibility. 
• Ability to solve conflicts: conflicts are inevitable part of leadership journey. Good leaders are capable of navigating through them. It is an important skill to have.
• Good communication skills: when you are good with communication you can convey your message with ease. 

How to become a good leader?

• Active listener: first of all to become a good leader you need to become a good (active) listener. Listening somebody carefully helps you understand better making you respond sensibly.
• Build connections: a good leader always empathizes with their audience. They are able to tap the impulse of the people around them and connect emotionally. Connecting emotionally makes help have a longer impact on the people.
• Accept challenges (failures): a good leader is one who accepts their failures and take it as an opportunity to grow. They do not give up to the hands of challenges. This makes more acceptable amongst people. 
• Take responsibility: a leader will always take the responsibility of a failure on their shoulder. They do not run away or shrug their shoulders when being faced with difficult situations.
• Communicate clearly: leaders are ones who communicates well (clearly) with the people. Who is clear with their ideas and their implementations. 

Introverts can makes fantastic leaders as they own the qualities like active listening, empathy and they also possess the ability to build deep connections. This in turn helps them grow stronger even as a leader and also as an individual. 

Read more: How to avoid Procrastination -what are the 5 ways to avoid Procrastination

Frequently asked questions 

Q.1. What is an introvert leader weakness?

For introverts their ability to connect with lesser number of people becomes a challange for them. They tend to surround themselves with limited people. This makes their social connections poor. They are not not an assertive personality. This again becomes a challenge for them. They lack the ability to firmly put their voice before others.

Q.2.Who is the richest introvert?

Warren Buffett is called as the richest man who is an introvert. He is an businessman from America, an investor, and philanthropist who is  currently serving as the co-founder, chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway.

Q.3. Why do introverts make good leaders speech?

Introverts are humble by nature. It helps them in managing people and makes them want to serve other people not worrying about their own capacity.  It is this trait that makes introverts different. They advocate for leaders to assist their team in achieving their goals too.

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Does Assertive Communication Skill Really Makes You A Better Communicator Then Others!

 

Table of contents 

• What is assertive communication skills?
• Benefits of assertive communication 
• Few key points to remember
• Being assertive vs being aggressive 
• How to get good with assertive communication skills? 
• Being assertive in different situations 
• Frequently asked questions 

Have you ever felt bad for yourself for working too long because you are uncomfortable saying 'no'. You end up screwing your plans, routine as you were up late working for somebody. That's where assertive communication skills comes in handy. 

Assertive communication means getting your feelings, thoughts,priorities well communicated without being disrespectful towards others. Being assertive makes you more confident, stronger. You can become more assertive by being honest, avoiding judgements and laying focus on your feelings.

Benefits of assertive communication 

When you know that you have communicated yourself well you feel confident and respected.

• You develop trust with others.
• You feel less anxious.
• Your stress , anxiety reduces.
• You feel your boundaries are protected.

Assertive communication set limits (draw boundaries)in different situations. This helps avoid developing resentment within you or others, making any relationship healthier.

Tips and tricks to become better assertive communicator

To come across as an assertive communicator you will have to focus on few key points. This will will help you communicate yourself clear and better.

• Be respectful towards others feelings. Mind your tone and words while talking.
• Be simple and straight forward with your message. Beating round the bush is not helpful. Such activities will tarnish your image. 
• Convey your opinions. Be crip, clear and confident with your opinions. Also, do not be rigid. Accept changes wherever possible with your opinions. 
• Your body speaks more then words. Hold good body postures that conveys your confidence, honesty and strength. Do not look manipulative. Also remain respectful towards others opinions.
• Good eye contact should be maintained throughout a conversation. It helps you perceived as an honest person.

Be assertive not aggressive 

Being assertive is different from being aggressive. This line is very fine. You must be very careful while being assertive. It is always confused with being aggressive. But being aggressive and passive is different. Being assertive is the middle ground between the two.

Those who are people pleaser, who cannot say "no" are often categorised as people with passive behaviour. Always looking after the needs of others ignoring owns needs causes lack of control over one's own life. This fills you with resentment and toxicity. 

Talking about the aggressive people they often reflects the following Symptoms: 

• They are disrespectful towards others opinions and emotions.
• They often violates others boundaries. It becomes fun for them. 
• Always puts their own needs over others even if it hampers relationship.

How to get good with assertive communication skills?

Through practice you can become an assertive communicator. This skill will help you in all the areas of your life. Given below tips will help you get better with this skill.

• Set boundaries for yourself: you should set some firm boundaries not to be overstepped. This might feel uncomfortable for you at first but with practice it will become easy.
• Practice regularly: when someone breaches your boundary you should stand for it. At times when people may react violently but that is okay. Everyone will understand with time.
• Say "no" more often: prioritise your needs over others. After all you will have to take charge for your life. Doing additional work will gain you nothing other then tensions. Say "no" more often. 
• Be confident 

Being assertive in settings like:

• At work : it becomes important to communicate well in the professional settings otherwise you can be very easily be taken for granted either by your own colleagues or seniors. Good communication in professional settings also makes you come across as a capable candidate. 
• In Familial settings: it is good keep yourself well communicated with the family members as well. This will bring you less troubles in several contexts. 
• Amongst friends: when you do not entertain nonsense or unnecessary demands your friends often tend to demand from you you remain hassle free. You might come across as rude to them but healthy boundaries go long way for your good. 
• Random people : it is also important to stick to your boundaries while talking to strangers in parks or clubs or anywhere. There are less chances for you to be taken for granted and you come across as a stronger person. 

Assertive communication skills is ofcourse a skill if you do not possess much try to cultivate within you. This will make you  grow strong and also fill you with confidence. 

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Frequently asked questions:

Q.1. Is being assertive good for a job?

Yes assertive people make good leaders ,managers. They get things done by treating colleagues fairly and with respect. Assertive employees are often well-liked and are seen as colleagues that people want to work with.

Q.2.Are assertive people more successful?

It is often seen that all successful people atleast has one trait in common and that is 'assertiveness'. 

Q.3.What is an assertive person? 

Someone who is always ready to chase what they want. They are confident and able to express themselves clearly to others without any hesitation are called as assertive people. They keep their interest above others without being disrespectful towards them. 

Q.4.Are we born assertive?

We all are born with this innate quality of assertiveness. Have seen babies? All of them cry, tantrums when you do not fulfilled their demands. They are least bothered about your capacity to fulfill any of their demands. This is the true nature of any being. But as we, we gradually adap our behaviour to fit in with the responses we receive from people.

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